It's OK, mommy. I forgive me!
The child was challenging today, to say the least!
Each day, we help her keep track of her behaviors with a chart, much like one finds in elementary school, where the child pulls a ‘card’ for incorrect behavior. At the end of each week, as a reward, we offer her a prize. Generally, it’s a small dollar-store trinket. If she earns all 4 or 5 prizes at the end of the month, she’ll get a larger reward for good behavior. Generally it’s maybe a $5 or $10 toy. It’s the only thing that’s worked for us in helping her ‘remember’ what she’s done right or wrong.
Just in the first hour after I woke today, she threw two small tantrums and whined about the smallest of issues. I still had to get her ‘Grand Prize’ for her July behavior, however. So, I told her that if she stayed good for an hour, I would take her to get the prize.
Her behavior had improved up until we walked into the store. She whined about me not buying her a $55 FurReal Friend. She meandered around the store and at one point, spoke rudely to me. When I warned her about it, she replied “Well, mom, that’s what you get for saying what you did to me earlier!” Her punishment was swift and subtle and she was quite less than pleased. In fact, my child refused to say a word to me for the next half-hour. It was a nice half-hour… that is until she suddenly burst into tears.
“But Mommy! I don’t know what I did wrong!!!”
I explained to her that she doesn’t speak that way to her parents, much less any grown up and she seemed to understand. After that, she was an angel.
On the way home, I stopped at McDonalds to get a drink and hardly found it fair to deprive her of something. And so, I bought her a small ice cream treat. From the back seat, I heard:
nom nom nom
“I just wanted to tell you that..”
“I am sorry for what I said to you in the store and…”
nom nom nom nom
“all of the other bad things I did earlier today.”
nom nom nom nom nom nom.
At least she’s remorseful!